My goodness! Has it already been more than 2 months since I last updated my blog?
I’ve just been so caught up with all kinds of things. Will update on them if I find time. For my benefit, here’re the things we did in all that time:
30 Mar: Watched Ugly Duckling with Asher, Joanne & JC.
01 Apr: Went Merlion Hotel with the boys
09 Apr: Watched Todd the Big Green Frog with Asher, Del & Anya
17 Apr: My Mum’s belated birthday celebration @ Beng Thin Hoon Kee & post-lunch chilling out at my brother’s place.
22 Apr: Good Friday – Headed to Sentosa then crashed JJSB’s Ritz hotel room
23 Apr: Ok, might sound a bit sua ku, but Asher had his first real bubble bath and loved it
27 Apr: Ellery’s first swim
01 May: Labour Day – We went to the Istana. Pity about the rain!
08 May: Mother’s Day – Picnic at Botanic Gardens while watching the SSO Concert
10 May: Went National Museum with Ellery to check out Biennale exhibits there
17 May: Vesak Day – Picnic at East Coast Park with church friends
18-22 May: Asher sick again! Argh…then passed it on to Ellery! Sigh…
24 May: Asher’s first day in school with underwear!
In the week immediately following Ellery’s discharge from hospital I was pretty much glued to my computer whenever I had free time cos I discovered the joy of Sidereel! It’s a website that has entire seasons of episodes of so many TV shows. And to my immense joy I found Gilmore Girls. I’m a big big fan of the series, but never got to watch beyond season 4. Since I was cooped up in the isolation ward with Ellery and didn’t want to use the TV cos I didn’t want him watching TV all day, I ended up watching episode after episode of Gilmore Girls.
Ellery took almost 6 weeks to completely recover and not sound chesty anymore. It might have taken longer because as he was on the road to recovery, he picked up another cough from Asher who had picked it up from someone in school. When Ellery fully recovered there was a very obvious lifting of his spirits. He was cheerful even while he was ill, but he was deliriously happy when he recovered fully. He was laughing at everything, smiling at anything. He was a real joy, highly entertaining, incredibly adorable and funny. Then he caught another cough from Asher, who again caught it from someone. SIGH! Why are there so many germs in pre-school?!!?
Thankfully, the bug isn’t as strong this time around, and it seems to have afflicated Asher more severly than Ellery. Asher was home for most of last week. So it was two boys at home simultaneously for almost a week. It surprised me and gave me confidence that handling them both for an entire day actually isn’t that bad. Putting Asher down for a nap was much easier than anticipated. He was cooperative. He was loving and understanding towards Ellery, knowing when Ellery needed Mummy. In those times, he’d play quietly by himself. The three of us just hung out, played and read together those few days. It was of course quite tiring for me. I didn’t get much rest because when Asher napped, Ellery was awake so I’d handle him. But it made me happy too cos I’d have some dedicated time with Ellery.
The arrival of this bug saw Asher’s appetite plummet again. It’s back to those days of eating nothing. I can serve up his favourite foods, and he’d say firmly “I do not want to eat anything”. Initially he was really ill, so I figured he really doesn’t have the appetite. But now that he’s well the phase has continued, much to my frustration. I’m having to rediscover the zen I once possessed about his non-existent appetite. On the bright side, while last week he rejected even his never-before-rejected fruits, this week he’s at least eating fruits again. Asher is effectively vegetarian now though. He’s never been a great fan of meat (except in bolognaise style, or shepherd’s pie), and now he’s rejecting all fish too, even the previously fail-safe fish fingers. Actually, even veg he’s rejecting. He used to eat any veg, even the green leafies…now only corn, carrot, peas…aka the frozen veggies. Broccoli and cabbage are ‘usually’ foods, capsicums generally an ‘always’ food, mushrooms were an ‘always’ now downgraded to ‘usually’ food, and funnily enough celery a ‘only at por por’s house’ food.
But where his appetite leaves much to be desired, I’m so so proud of him that he’s successfully gone 2 days in school in underwear! Only at nap time does he wear a diaper. After he wakes it’s back into underwear again. I’m really so happy. It’s not been difficult toilet training him, just a long-drawn affair. I tried when he was younger using the babysigns thing, worked for a littttttlle while, then stopped. I decided to not bother with toilet training until he was older, esp since a new baby was on the way and he might regress. After Ellery was born I’d let him sit on the toilet before his shower every night. That worked. Then one weekend several weeks back I decided to let him try wearing underwear at home since we were staying in. He wet himself once. But after that went the rest of the morning dry. We tried that another 3 times. The 2nd time he stayed dry throughout the morning, peeing in the potty when I brought him there. The 3rd time wet himself once. The 4th time no accidents – that was on Sunday 23 May. I decided to just try letting him wear underwear in school. And he’s had no accidents so far! Yippie! Hope it keeps up. And then of course there’ll be the night hurdle to cross. But that’s another milestone.
On Ellery, one very sweet thing that resulted from the hospital stay was that we bonded a lot, and he showed a clear preference for me after by being quite clingy. There was already a mummy-preference prior to the stay, but it was really cemented after. I could really feel the difference. And I guess it’s to be expected since I was by his side constantly during the 4 days. I hardly saw light of day…lost track of time since we were in the isolation ward with no windows. When he was being poked and suctioned I was the one holding his hands. Also, it was probably the first time that he’d had me all to himself for such a long stretch. Normally there’s always Asher around who’ll talk my attention away from Ellery. So even though it was an unfortunate event, I think there was something really good that came out of it.
I’ll end this long catch-up post with a funny quirk about the boys. Asher continues to be on the small side. At 2.5yrs he’s not even 13kg yet, that’s at about the 25th percentile. When he was a baby he was quite consistently ard 5th percentile for weight. For height he was always on the tall side. Ellery on-the-other-hand is a hovering around 97th percentile in weight! He lost no weight at all during his bout of pneumonia. There’s one pair of shorts that Asher can still wear (a little tight) that Ellery can also wear (a little loose)! Maybe they’ll be sharing a wardrobe sooner than I think!
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